We are all ready.set.go for February 14th tomorrow. I bought this set of pencils from Knot and Bow and am giving them to Chris on Valentine's Day. Just a whimsical reminder letting him know..."what's me without you?"
"I would send you a bouquet of newly sharpened pencils
if I knew your name and address."
- You've Got Mail
Tomorrow we will start our day off with traditional pink strawberry milk and end the day with some Xs and Os.
I have a home sweet home full of BOYS so there aren't any pink hearts or roses to give out to them on February 14th. We have told the boys often that THIS holiday is more focused on lovers, not as much for kids in our home. Because of this, we don't go crazy with gifts or activities. Chris and I keep the focus more on each other than the kids. They're spoiled enough, I promise.
The closest they get to romantic love right now is when they are playing with LEGO knights and fair maidens. Sometimes the knight recuses the fair maiden from the dangerous dragon.
The concept of the mighty knight recusing the beautiful fair maiden has become hazy and lost in our modern lives. But in our deepest hearts, most women desire to have a man who wants her enough to fight for her, to risk it all for her. And most men want to be their lover's hero and to know their strength is sufficient enough to make their girl feel loved.
So why do our men stop fighting for us?
Lately on Pinterest I've seen a lot of dreamy quotes written by women listing qualities they want their man to possess. Instead of focusing all effort on how your lover should change and love you more, think about what YOU can do to become irresistible to him. A lot of energy is wasted (and a lot of love lost) when we constantly pepper him with all the ways we think he should change for us.
Why do our men stop fighting for us? There are so many reasons but one reason is that we have forgotten to think about how best to love them and instead we spend too much time trying to convince them to love us better. Silly girls. We sit around with our noses up in the air claiming that we deserve more. Really? I believe we should turn our hearts inside out and work toward fully loving our men and being the best GIRL we can be instead of selfishly feeding our hearts all these ideals that we believe we deserve. If we spend half the effort into self improvement as we do into nagging about him and his faults, we will instantly see a complete change in our relationships. Simple actually. It's all about that childhood lesson we learned years ago, "don't worry about anybody else, just worry about yourself". This applies to our relationships. Be the best girl you can be instead of trying to make a new man outta him!
Forget about the box of chocolates and candlelit dinner, just be his companion, his best friend, and his biggest fan on a daily basis. It will rock your world in everyday ways.
For more on this marriage topic see past post: The Slightly Offensive Marriage List
And for my favorite Valentine Story see past post: A Tale of Two Love Stories
our Valentine Mantel 2012
O Yes you do!
Happy Day of Hearts!
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